My Voice Does Not Matter

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This past weekend, hundreds of women exercised their first amendment right to assembly and free speech and protested at and after the inauguration of president Donald J. Trump.  I was not one of them.

I am a young woman, in the millennial category, single, in university, but I did not protest.  Why?  Because although I want women to be respected and I do not want my rights violated, I did not agree with many of the women protesting.

For the first point, I agree that Donald Trump has made some very disrespectful comments about some women, even women in general.  That does show a lack of respect, but I also think that Trump is willing to treat women as equal to men, at least in a political and occupational setting, seeing as he has appointed women to his cabinet and has had them on his campaign team.  Thus, I did not think that it was necessary to protest in Washington or another big city to encourage him to respect women.  I could go on about why Trump really is the president we deserve, but this video has already done that: https://www.facebook.com/journalpoems/videos/926035810829348/?pnref=story

What I really want to point out is how women like me are unrepresented by the media these days, that we are not treated like the radical feminists and protesters on Washington are.  However, because I am a white, Conservative Christian, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that the second amendment applies to this era to protect my rights, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that pornography is evil and that women should dress modestly, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that men and women are equal because they were created in the image of God, but I also believe that they were given different, valuable roles by God, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that unborn life is more sacred, my voice does not matter.

I hate that women are mistreated in nations around the world, oppressed just because of their gender.  That is not the case in the United States of America.  We as women have more freedoms than any other women in the world, and we have since the founding of our nation.  We have not always had the right to vote, but that was because the family and community structure was very different in the eighteenth century.  It is disappointing that women are not always paid or treated the same as men in the work force, especially when it comes to pay, and I think that should be changed.  Men and women should  get paid for doing the same work.  However, I believe, counter-culturally, that married women’s primary job and privilege is to raise their children.

I believe that pornography is vile, even “lesser” pornography in movies and tv.  Women should not be shown off as sex idols in media.  Women were created beautifully and to give beauty to the world, but the ability to arouse sensuality is not the same as being beautiful.  Women are life-givers, literally.  We have an ability to comfort and say the right thing at the right time different from men.  We show strength through endurance and biting back ungracious words when children ask us for a candy bar for the hundredth time.  We have soft and beautiful voices in many different ranges, our voices are often compared to angel’s, in fact.  These, and others, are beautiful qualities of women.

I believe that a woman does have a right to control her body, but with that right comes responsibility.  All rights have moral obligations and vice versa.  When freedom is abused, it is taken away, piece by piece.  I do not think that school dress codes are oppressive.  I do not think it is right for men to objectify women because of what they are wearing, but I also do not think it is right for women to objectify themselves and flaunt their bodies.  Modesty is beautiful, it shows a depth of character.  One can still be modest and express herself.  In addition to clothing, women have a right to exercise or not to, to eat healthy or not to, and to have sex or not to.  However, women never have the right to murder for convenience.  abortion is not controlling one’s own body, but destroying someone else’s no matter how that someone else got there.

This is me, protesting against the culture, screaming into the void.  I desperately wish for peace in this nation, I desperately wish that all men and women saw themselves as beautiful in the eyes of God, and held themselves accountable to Him as King of the Universe.  Alas, there is sin in the world, and with that comes discord and violence.  Women are continuing to fight to reign over men, as they have from the beginning (look at Genesis 3).

I am a woman.  I did not protest because I disagree with the worldview held by many women who did protest.  These are my views and my beliefs, and they are the reason why to the media, my voice does not matter.

 

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5 Reasons I’d Be Depressed In Public School

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I am currently a senior in highschool and I am homeschooled.  Unlike some of my peers, I do not mind the “homeschool” label, and I actually enjoy having most of my education at home.  I do go to a two-day per week classical program for homeschoolers that is very similar to a private school, but it’s still not the same.

Disclaimer: I’ve actually never been to a public school for the purpose of taking classes, but I have public schooled and private schooled friends. (Gasp, I know, I have friends.)  From what I’ve heard, being homeschooled is pretty great, for me, amazing.  I’m sure there are kids who thrive in the system called public education, but I’m sure not one of them.

Following that rather unnecessarily long introduction, here are five reasons that I’d have depression if I went to public school; or, five reasons that being homeschooled is awesome.

  1. The Colorless Building

I know, I know, the buildings have some color, but in reality, it’s just covering the brain-sucking brown and grays underneath.  I have been in a public school, for the SAT and ACT and a few other times, and I could feel my creativity being suppressed by the prison-like nature of the hallways and classrooms.  I guess that’s a little exaggerated, but its nothing like studying in the sunshine, surrounded by trees and the open air.  Moreover, I get to listen to my own music, as loud as I want, head-phone free.

The best place to learn is not in a room like a tabula rasa, but in a place with plenty of beauty and scope for imagination. At least, that’s my opinion.

2. Peer Pressure, or Pressure in General

Teenagers, the most outwardly judgmental species on the planet.  Someone came up with the brilliant idea of putting all these awkward specimens in one building for eight hours of painful interaction.  Now, I love people, I’m moderately outgoing, and I like to impress people.  I would probably crack under all the pressure I’d feel in a public school.  Pressure to look good, be smart but not too smart, have friends, etc, I’d feel it all.  I would be that kid who tries out for several sports and joins at least two clubs while still trying to stay on top of homework and have a social life.  I don’t know about anyone else, but for me, that’s a recipe for major-stress.

Being homeschooled is awesome in this respect.  Yeah, I feel pressure and still worry about social acceptance, but I can go makeup-less in sweat pants to class and not feel like a failure in life.

Wanting to be accepted by people leads me directly into my next point….

3. The People

Like I said before, I love people, but let’s be honest, people can be mean, dumb, and dramatic.  I do not have any enemies, and in general, most people like me.  I feel like this would not be the case if I went to a public school.  It’s nearly impossible to be around that many people in one’s peer group and not be disliked by at least one person.

I know I’d make friends in public school and that I’d have to ask the Holy Spirit to give me a loving attitude toward the people hard to make friends with.  I’d just probably be doing a lot of that praying.

I realize that I’m going to have to get used to being around more peers when I’m in college next year, but I’m glad I did not have to go through the most awkward, emotionally-charged, stupid years of my life with five-hundred plus kids experiencing the same things.  Sounds like there is a potential for a whole lot of drama, oh wait, there is a whole lot of drama.

I’m not even going to mention the fact that I’d have to work with people that don’t like to work.

4.  The Schedule

Everyone works differently, each person’s circadian rhythm is slightly different.  For example, I am a morning person, my brother is not.  I like to get the majority of my home-work done in the morning, if I’m not working (did I mention I have a job?), while he likes to get his work done later in the evening.

I also like to set my own pace to work, getting the subjects that are easier to whip out done in the morning, while the subjects that take more deep thought and concentration done later.  In public school, I wouldn’t get as much choice in which classes I take in the morning, mid-morning, and afternoon.

I also like taking breaks.  I cannot sit still for an hour or more with just five minute passing periods in the middle. No. Just no.  I can finish my twenty-minute math homework and then do jumping jacks or play on the piano for ten minutes, and give my mind a break and my body some exercise.  It’s awesome.  I also take about an hour for lunch, as I create my own culinary masterpieces, usually from dinner’s leftovers, practice my piano pieces, text people, or see if I have any college letters.  It’s great, but I usually take longer than I mean to.

I could go on about the schedule, but I’ll stop there.

5. The Homework

It’s not that the homework itself would be bad, it could be, but its more about when I’d get the homework done.  I’d spend about eight hours of my morning and early afternoon in a drab building with possibly crazy people, then come home and be expected to spend another two hours, at least, on homework.  That sounds pretty much like torture.

It would be hard to have the motivation to get said homework done as soon as I got home, since I’d be ready to take a nap or go run outside.  If I waited until later, assuming I did not have any evening plans, I would spend my evening doing homework, maybe even stay up late, since I’d most likely be distracted by friends texting and social media.

Either way is not a good option.  Get burnt out on school, or stay up way too late finishing homework.  I’ll take option C, be homeschooled and do your work when you want to and go outside when you want to.  There’s also more motivation required, and therefore, more motivation is acquired.

 

In Conclusion…

I’m sure it’s not all bad being public schooled, after all, public schoolers have those fun school social events, right?  Because everyone wants to go back to the school building and hang out with all the people they already see at least five times a week, more if they’re into sports.

Honestly, it’s pretty great being homeschooled, for even more reasons than the above.  I do have a social life too, at church and youthgroup, at work, with friends, at my “school.”  I do not feel like I’ve missed out on much, I’ve even gone to prom.

To all my public schooled friends and private schooled friends, you are amazing people, with much more will-power than I have.  I both pity and admire you.  If you like being public-schooled, that’s great, if you don’t, I’m sorry.  God can use us wherever we are, right?

*nota bene: this post is supposed to be mostly tongue-in-cheek, so for those who might take the statement that I’d have depression too seriously, please know that I’m not making depression a trivial or humorous thing.*

Marriage: It’s not all about you

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It’s time for a long-overdo post addressing a controversial, relevant topic.  Marriage, specifically, homosexual marriage.  The recent Supreme Court decision over SCOTUS stated that a homosexual marriage recognized in one state must be recognized in all states.  In this post, I will not address the unconstitutional nature of this decision (violates the 9th and 10th amendment, in summary: individual Constitutional State laws cannot be overridden by the Federal government, and all rights not given to the Federal government are reserved for the individual States), and instead address the issue of marriage itself.

I am approaching this topic with a bias (for all you skeptics who like to make comments about bias), I am a Christian who believes that the Bible is the inerrant word of God, but I am going to use as much logic as possible and examples, historical and Biblical, in this post.

I realize that the title of my post will immediately cause one to be defensive of their motives for getting married, for who gets married with selfish motives?  According to many many people, Christian or not, marriage is a partnership, right?  This is true, marriage is a partnership, but it is a special and sacred partnership.

The history of marriage starts with the Creation of the world.  God, the Creator, desired to create an organism (for lack of a better term) in his image, one who could create, have emotion, have intellect, and desire relationships.  Therefore, he created man, “in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them,” (Genesis 1:27).  Instead of speaking this new creature into existence, as he had for everything else, God got down in the dirt, and formed man from the dust, breathing life into his nostrils, (Genesis 2:7).  God then placed man in a beautiful garden and gave him the special job of naming all the animals and cultivating the garden (Genesis 2:8, 15, 19).

This man, God named Adam.  At this point, God had not created woman, because God wanted Adam to learn something.  As Adam was naming the animals, he noticed that they came in pairs, male and female.  He also noticed that there was not another creature like him, no creature fit to work with him, (Genesis 2:20).

Why had God not given Adam a partner?  God wanted Adam to realize that he needed a partner, to desire a relationship.  “So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.  And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man,” (Genesis 2:21-22).  When God brings the woman to Adam, Adam is amazed and full of joy at this perfect partner.  Adam and his wife, Eve, enjoy the first marriage, completely without shame or dishonesty, (Genesis 2:23, 25).

A few observations from this passage.  First, relationships, especially marriage, are necessary for a society to thrive.  Adam and Eve worked together in the garden, and would eventually parent children that would marry and have their own families and populate the earth.  Secondly, Eve, the woman, was created from Adam’s rib, symbolizing her status as Adam’s partner and equal.  Eve was not created from Adam’s head, symbolizing dominance, or foot, symbolizing servitude, but from his side, a very carefully planned action by the Creator.  Finally, God did not make another man for Adam, but a woman.  This is significant in two ways. One, that God’s creation was not complete with a man, but with man and woman, woman is necessary.  Two, that though Adam and Eve were created equally, they were created with different roles and functions which compliment each other.

God created marriage for several good reasons.  Marriage was created for the procreation of children and the pleasure of the married couple.  Marriage was created to secure the family.  there are several reasons why marriage was created, but the most important reason is that it reflects the Unity of the Trinity, and this is why marriage is sacred.

Our culture has believed many lies about marriage and the family, but the biggest one is this, that marriage is about being happy.  While happiness should come with marriage, it should not be the focus of the marriage.  This sounds completely crazy in our world, but it is true.  Making happiness the focus of the marriage will ruin the marriage.

Two hard truths for me to accept as a romantically minded girl who grew up watching Disney movies were that there is not “One” out there for me and that romance is not everything.  One does not have to feel that special spark to marry someone, and there is not one person alone who can give one the perfect feeling.  While this principle seems super unromantic and boring, it actually helps marriages last.

Why does the principle of “no one true love” make marriages last?  Because feelings change.  One could feel the “spark” from another person and think that because he/she felt that it means that he/she is supposed to be with that person.  All cares are tossed to the wind, and the romantic relationship begins.  The couple lives happily ever after, right?  Wrong.  What happens when that romantic feelings fades, or one partner lets the other down?  Does that mean that he/she is not the “one” and that its time to end the marriage and move on?  That is what Hollywood would have us believe.  However, this is just not realistic.  A couple that can work through the hard days will have a better relationship afterward.  Yes, there are circumstances when one partner is abusing the other, but could that be because the relationship was initially based on a “spark” instead of on something more foundational, like trust?

That is my reasoning why feeling romantic about another person does not justify marrying them, no matter how “in love” one is.  True love is demonstrated by sacrifice, its not just a feeling.  The idea of getting married for love is actually a very modern one, and not a completely perfect idea.

For thousands of years of history, marriages were arranged.  In many pagan cultures, these were not good arrangements for the wife, who was often much younger than her husband, and usually one of several wives.  In cultures such as Mesopotamia, the husband could send his wife away just with the charge of adultery.  A man could accuse his wife of adultery, and even if the charge was false, the woman was executed.  This was a tragedy, but it was not because the marriages were arranged, but because the people who practiced this were immoral, and evil.

The ancient Hebrews also practiced arranged marriage.  However, because of the laws of Yahweh, the God of the Bible, these marriages lasted much longer and were much happier than many in other cultures.  The eighth commandment states, “You shall not commit adultery,” (Exodus 20:14), but in the Hebrew law, if a man or woman committed adultery, unlike in other cultures where typically just the wives were punished, both the proven adulterer and adulteress were put to death.  All other sexual immorality was also punished by death.  This is because God considers marriage sacred.

In the New Testament, Jesus points again to marriage as God created it, “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.  What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate,” (John 10:5-9).  In this verse, Jesus talks about how special marriage is by saying that a marriage is a man and his wife becoming one flesh, and that a marriage should not be separated.

Finally, I believe that marriage between a man and a woman is special and Biblical because it reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church, (Ephesians 5:22-33).  This passage also describes the roles of the husband and wife in correlation to the Church and Christ.  The best marriages have Christ at the center, with the husband and wife serving each other, praying for each other, and sacrificing for each other.

On side note, although marriage is not for everyone, God commands that everyone who remains unmarried remain celibate.  In fact, the apostle Paul preferred to be single, because he believed that he could do more ministry that way. (1 Corinthians 7:25-40).

In conclusion, I believe that according to the scriptures, the only true marriage is that between a husband and a wife.  Marriage is a sacred covenant and should not be entered into lightly.  Romance is not everything, although it is part of the pleasure of marriage.  All in all, the unity of the marital relationship is something created by God to reflect the unity of the Trinity, thus it is sad to see it lose its value in divorces, adulteries, and other sexual immorality.  However, there is always healing for the broken, so even if a person has had a broken sexual past, he or she can find redemption at the cross, with Jesus’ sacrifice of love for all.  That is the greatest example of love in history, and it was done for every person who ever lived or will live.  That day, love won.

The Tragedy of Feminism

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A relatively recent movement in American history has been that of the feminists.  While there have been some good things that have happened as a result of this movement, many things that have happened because of this movement are tragic.

Because of the early feminist movement, women gained the right to vote and the right to a higher education.  Clothes have become more comfortable, with pants becoming the norm.  In modern day, women from the Middle East have started to come out from oppression and find a voice, though facing much persecution.  Furthermore, feminists have attacked human trafficking, which is a wonderful thing.

However, the feminist movement has brought tragedy with it.  Through fighting for equality, feminists have decided that they should be equal to men in all ways.  Same role, same ability, same lifestyle.  As a result of this philosophy, the family has suffered.  Men and women no longer take the roles of husband and wife, but as mere business partners.

Feminists have lost sight of who women were created to be, in fact, they are trying to make women take on the roles of man.  That doesn’t mean that they want women to look or talk exactly like men, but they do want women to have the same role as men.  In reality, they are saying that the best woman is a man.  Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of being a feminist?

God created women to be beautiful life givers, and helpers.  Women are equal to men, not in their roles, but in their purpose.  Yes, men were created to be leaders, but that does not mean that they should oppress women.

One particular thing that feminists pressure women to do is to go have a life outside of the home.  Women have to go to college, get a high paying job, and not be hampered by children.  If women stay at home and make their house beautiful and take care of children, they are demeaning themselves and their potential.  This is vastly different from what the Bible says.

Proverbs 31 outlines what makes a woman beautiful, inside and out.  This woman is multi-talented within her home, and is a help to her husband, not just a house-keeper.  She obviously not a slave, but enjoys her job as a wife and mother.

The feminist movement is tragic because it pushes the idea that women are not good as they are, that they need to do things that God has not created them to do.