My Voice Does Not Matter

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This past weekend, hundreds of women exercised their first amendment right to assembly and free speech and protested at and after the inauguration of president Donald J. Trump.  I was not one of them.

I am a young woman, in the millennial category, single, in university, but I did not protest.  Why?  Because although I want women to be respected and I do not want my rights violated, I did not agree with many of the women protesting.

For the first point, I agree that Donald Trump has made some very disrespectful comments about some women, even women in general.  That does show a lack of respect, but I also think that Trump is willing to treat women as equal to men, at least in a political and occupational setting, seeing as he has appointed women to his cabinet and has had them on his campaign team.  Thus, I did not think that it was necessary to protest in Washington or another big city to encourage him to respect women.  I could go on about why Trump really is the president we deserve, but this video has already done that: https://www.facebook.com/journalpoems/videos/926035810829348/?pnref=story

What I really want to point out is how women like me are unrepresented by the media these days, that we are not treated like the radical feminists and protesters on Washington are.  However, because I am a white, Conservative Christian, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that the second amendment applies to this era to protect my rights, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that pornography is evil and that women should dress modestly, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that men and women are equal because they were created in the image of God, but I also believe that they were given different, valuable roles by God, my voice does not matter.  Because I believe that unborn life is more sacred, my voice does not matter.

I hate that women are mistreated in nations around the world, oppressed just because of their gender.  That is not the case in the United States of America.  We as women have more freedoms than any other women in the world, and we have since the founding of our nation.  We have not always had the right to vote, but that was because the family and community structure was very different in the eighteenth century.  It is disappointing that women are not always paid or treated the same as men in the work force, especially when it comes to pay, and I think that should be changed.  Men and women should  get paid for doing the same work.  However, I believe, counter-culturally, that married women’s primary job and privilege is to raise their children.

I believe that pornography is vile, even “lesser” pornography in movies and tv.  Women should not be shown off as sex idols in media.  Women were created beautifully and to give beauty to the world, but the ability to arouse sensuality is not the same as being beautiful.  Women are life-givers, literally.  We have an ability to comfort and say the right thing at the right time different from men.  We show strength through endurance and biting back ungracious words when children ask us for a candy bar for the hundredth time.  We have soft and beautiful voices in many different ranges, our voices are often compared to angel’s, in fact.  These, and others, are beautiful qualities of women.

I believe that a woman does have a right to control her body, but with that right comes responsibility.  All rights have moral obligations and vice versa.  When freedom is abused, it is taken away, piece by piece.  I do not think that school dress codes are oppressive.  I do not think it is right for men to objectify women because of what they are wearing, but I also do not think it is right for women to objectify themselves and flaunt their bodies.  Modesty is beautiful, it shows a depth of character.  One can still be modest and express herself.  In addition to clothing, women have a right to exercise or not to, to eat healthy or not to, and to have sex or not to.  However, women never have the right to murder for convenience.  abortion is not controlling one’s own body, but destroying someone else’s no matter how that someone else got there.

This is me, protesting against the culture, screaming into the void.  I desperately wish for peace in this nation, I desperately wish that all men and women saw themselves as beautiful in the eyes of God, and held themselves accountable to Him as King of the Universe.  Alas, there is sin in the world, and with that comes discord and violence.  Women are continuing to fight to reign over men, as they have from the beginning (look at Genesis 3).

I am a woman.  I did not protest because I disagree with the worldview held by many women who did protest.  These are my views and my beliefs, and they are the reason why to the media, my voice does not matter.

 

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Marriage: It’s not all about you

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It’s time for a long-overdo post addressing a controversial, relevant topic.  Marriage, specifically, homosexual marriage.  The recent Supreme Court decision over SCOTUS stated that a homosexual marriage recognized in one state must be recognized in all states.  In this post, I will not address the unconstitutional nature of this decision (violates the 9th and 10th amendment, in summary: individual Constitutional State laws cannot be overridden by the Federal government, and all rights not given to the Federal government are reserved for the individual States), and instead address the issue of marriage itself.

I am approaching this topic with a bias (for all you skeptics who like to make comments about bias), I am a Christian who believes that the Bible is the inerrant word of God, but I am going to use as much logic as possible and examples, historical and Biblical, in this post.

I realize that the title of my post will immediately cause one to be defensive of their motives for getting married, for who gets married with selfish motives?  According to many many people, Christian or not, marriage is a partnership, right?  This is true, marriage is a partnership, but it is a special and sacred partnership.

The history of marriage starts with the Creation of the world.  God, the Creator, desired to create an organism (for lack of a better term) in his image, one who could create, have emotion, have intellect, and desire relationships.  Therefore, he created man, “in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them,” (Genesis 1:27).  Instead of speaking this new creature into existence, as he had for everything else, God got down in the dirt, and formed man from the dust, breathing life into his nostrils, (Genesis 2:7).  God then placed man in a beautiful garden and gave him the special job of naming all the animals and cultivating the garden (Genesis 2:8, 15, 19).

This man, God named Adam.  At this point, God had not created woman, because God wanted Adam to learn something.  As Adam was naming the animals, he noticed that they came in pairs, male and female.  He also noticed that there was not another creature like him, no creature fit to work with him, (Genesis 2:20).

Why had God not given Adam a partner?  God wanted Adam to realize that he needed a partner, to desire a relationship.  “So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.  And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man,” (Genesis 2:21-22).  When God brings the woman to Adam, Adam is amazed and full of joy at this perfect partner.  Adam and his wife, Eve, enjoy the first marriage, completely without shame or dishonesty, (Genesis 2:23, 25).

A few observations from this passage.  First, relationships, especially marriage, are necessary for a society to thrive.  Adam and Eve worked together in the garden, and would eventually parent children that would marry and have their own families and populate the earth.  Secondly, Eve, the woman, was created from Adam’s rib, symbolizing her status as Adam’s partner and equal.  Eve was not created from Adam’s head, symbolizing dominance, or foot, symbolizing servitude, but from his side, a very carefully planned action by the Creator.  Finally, God did not make another man for Adam, but a woman.  This is significant in two ways. One, that God’s creation was not complete with a man, but with man and woman, woman is necessary.  Two, that though Adam and Eve were created equally, they were created with different roles and functions which compliment each other.

God created marriage for several good reasons.  Marriage was created for the procreation of children and the pleasure of the married couple.  Marriage was created to secure the family.  there are several reasons why marriage was created, but the most important reason is that it reflects the Unity of the Trinity, and this is why marriage is sacred.

Our culture has believed many lies about marriage and the family, but the biggest one is this, that marriage is about being happy.  While happiness should come with marriage, it should not be the focus of the marriage.  This sounds completely crazy in our world, but it is true.  Making happiness the focus of the marriage will ruin the marriage.

Two hard truths for me to accept as a romantically minded girl who grew up watching Disney movies were that there is not “One” out there for me and that romance is not everything.  One does not have to feel that special spark to marry someone, and there is not one person alone who can give one the perfect feeling.  While this principle seems super unromantic and boring, it actually helps marriages last.

Why does the principle of “no one true love” make marriages last?  Because feelings change.  One could feel the “spark” from another person and think that because he/she felt that it means that he/she is supposed to be with that person.  All cares are tossed to the wind, and the romantic relationship begins.  The couple lives happily ever after, right?  Wrong.  What happens when that romantic feelings fades, or one partner lets the other down?  Does that mean that he/she is not the “one” and that its time to end the marriage and move on?  That is what Hollywood would have us believe.  However, this is just not realistic.  A couple that can work through the hard days will have a better relationship afterward.  Yes, there are circumstances when one partner is abusing the other, but could that be because the relationship was initially based on a “spark” instead of on something more foundational, like trust?

That is my reasoning why feeling romantic about another person does not justify marrying them, no matter how “in love” one is.  True love is demonstrated by sacrifice, its not just a feeling.  The idea of getting married for love is actually a very modern one, and not a completely perfect idea.

For thousands of years of history, marriages were arranged.  In many pagan cultures, these were not good arrangements for the wife, who was often much younger than her husband, and usually one of several wives.  In cultures such as Mesopotamia, the husband could send his wife away just with the charge of adultery.  A man could accuse his wife of adultery, and even if the charge was false, the woman was executed.  This was a tragedy, but it was not because the marriages were arranged, but because the people who practiced this were immoral, and evil.

The ancient Hebrews also practiced arranged marriage.  However, because of the laws of Yahweh, the God of the Bible, these marriages lasted much longer and were much happier than many in other cultures.  The eighth commandment states, “You shall not commit adultery,” (Exodus 20:14), but in the Hebrew law, if a man or woman committed adultery, unlike in other cultures where typically just the wives were punished, both the proven adulterer and adulteress were put to death.  All other sexual immorality was also punished by death.  This is because God considers marriage sacred.

In the New Testament, Jesus points again to marriage as God created it, “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.  What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate,” (John 10:5-9).  In this verse, Jesus talks about how special marriage is by saying that a marriage is a man and his wife becoming one flesh, and that a marriage should not be separated.

Finally, I believe that marriage between a man and a woman is special and Biblical because it reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church, (Ephesians 5:22-33).  This passage also describes the roles of the husband and wife in correlation to the Church and Christ.  The best marriages have Christ at the center, with the husband and wife serving each other, praying for each other, and sacrificing for each other.

On side note, although marriage is not for everyone, God commands that everyone who remains unmarried remain celibate.  In fact, the apostle Paul preferred to be single, because he believed that he could do more ministry that way. (1 Corinthians 7:25-40).

In conclusion, I believe that according to the scriptures, the only true marriage is that between a husband and a wife.  Marriage is a sacred covenant and should not be entered into lightly.  Romance is not everything, although it is part of the pleasure of marriage.  All in all, the unity of the marital relationship is something created by God to reflect the unity of the Trinity, thus it is sad to see it lose its value in divorces, adulteries, and other sexual immorality.  However, there is always healing for the broken, so even if a person has had a broken sexual past, he or she can find redemption at the cross, with Jesus’ sacrifice of love for all.  That is the greatest example of love in history, and it was done for every person who ever lived or will live.  That day, love won.

Why Christians Can’t Reject Genesis

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Some Christians today believe that the Bible is fallible, at least some of it.  A particular book that several Christians think can be rejected is the book of Genesis.  Because modern “science” argues that the Earth is more than six thousand years old and that the world was formed by macro-evolution, some Christians reject the idea of a six-day creation.

I would argue that all scripture is inspired by God and is therefore infallible.  I would also argue that the book of Genesis, especially the first three chapters, is essential to the Christian faith and therefore cannot be rejected by Christians.

Herbert Spencer, a brilliant philosopher and proponent of Evolution of the late 19th/early 20th century, stated that all matter could be divided into five categories: time, force, action, space, matter.

“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.”-Genesis 1:1

In the first verse of Genesis, all elements of reality are introduced.  Time: “In the beginning,” when time was first created.  Force: “God,” the greatest force in the universe.  Action: “created.”  Space: “the heavens,” the cosmos and all they contain, as well as literal space.  Matter: “and the earth,” the first matter discovered by man.  Men have tried but cannot deny what stands obviously before them, truth.

Genesis is a book of origins, and it starts with the origin of the universe.  God spoke everything into existence.  What I do not understand is why people do not want to believe that God created everything in six days.  God is God, and as God, he can do incomprehensible, amazing things that only God can do, like creating the entire cosmos in six literal days.  In six literal days, the universe and all life was created.  First light and night and day, then water in heaven and in the seas, then the land and plants, then the planets and heavenly bodies, then sea creatures and birds, then land creatures and man.  Six days.

Not only does Genesis talk about the origin of creation, but it also talks about the origins of order and complexity, man’s love for beauty, marriage, culture, government, nations, and much more.  Genesis 3, all the way at the beginning of scripture, tells of the origins of evil, judgement, and salvation.

The man and the woman were tempted and succumbed to temptation, doubting God and allowing sin to enter their hearts.  Knowing that they had sinned, they hid from the God with whom they had been able to directly communicate and have a relationship.  Adam and Eve were punished and  sent from the garden, knowing that they were mortal and doomed to death.  However, God spared them from death that day and gave them hope for a savior.

And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head; and you will strike his heel.”

-Genesis 3:15 

The “he” referred to in this passage is the savior, Jesus Christ, who was not due to come for four thousand years.  This gave Adam and Eve, the first man and woman, hope that someday, their relationship with God would be restored, that the savior would crush sin and death, bringing humanity back to its God.

The reason Genesis is so important is that it gives us the story of where we came from and why things are the way that they are.  In it is the story of a holy but loving God and his relationship with man.  I will not tell the whole story, because the believer must read it for himself.

If the Church tries to fit its faith to the world by twisting it and taking away fundamentals, nothing will be left of Christianity.  Thus, we must hold fast to the word of God, the inerrant scriptures.

What Every Young Woman Needs To Know

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In the beginning, God created all things, and last of all, man and woman.  Humankind is special, because we were created in the image of God, he created us to reflect his character.  God didn’t make one gender-neutral person who reflected the whole of God’s character, he created male and female, each to reflect different aspects of himself.  Men he created to be powerful, protective, and to hold authority.  God created women to be life-giving, beautiful, and helpful.  Both people represent the image of God, they just do it in different ways.

When the first man and woman betrayed God in the garden of Eden, sin was brought into the world.  God told them how hard life was going to be, that work would no longer be pleasant and that pain and suffering would happen.  He told Eve that she would desire to rule over her husband.  After sadly giving Adam and Eve the news that life would no longer be perfect, God gave them hope.  He told them that a savior would come, who would bear the punishment for sin and bring about forgiveness and eternal life.

Fast forward to today, thousands of years after the fall of man happened.   In the United States, feminism is on the rise and people take longer than ever to become adults.  Marriage has been thrown away and gender is being neutralized.  In huge contrast to this is the Middle East, where women are treated as slaves and men have more power than they know what to do with.   Neither is what God intended for mankind.  However, we have a hope that overcomes the darkness of the world.  Jesus is our hope.

Two thousand years ago, Jesus the Christ came  to earth as a man, fully human, fully divine.  The only begotten Son of God descended from heaven to earth as and became a child, born in the humblest of places.  As a man, he worked miracles upon the earth and preached about the kingdom of heaven.  He healed the blind, freed people from demons, and even raised the dead.  His works brought hope to many, but he brought something more than miracles and words.  Jesus gave up his life and was crucified though he had committed no crime.  He had lived without a sin, yet he died bearing the weight of all people’s sin.  In the moment of his death, he broke the division that had been set up between God and man.  He was the perfect sacrificial lamb.  that was not the end of the story.

One day, a woman named Mary was going to the tomb of Jesus, a man whom she had believed was the Christ.  When she got there, she saw the stone rolled away from the entrance of the tomb, and no body inside.  She wept, believing that the body had been stolen.  A man came to her and revealed to her that he was Jesus, and had risen from the dead by the power of God.

This is the basis of our story, and is the reason I am writing this series.  I am writing to share the gospel and glorify God.  Young men and women need to know that there is hope for them in Christ.  They need to know that they have been redeemed, and if they accept that gift of redemption, that they become a child of God.

Acts 16:31 “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, then you will be saved.”